Thirty-three years ago today, Terry tenderly rubbed the top of my hands as he said, “I do.” Actually, he said it twice, “I do, I do.” We were eager to marry and made our promises before family and friends. We dared to dream for a fairytale life as we ran out of the church under a rain of rice.
Thirty-three years later, I can say our marriage has been messy, but our love has grown deeply. Honestly, we are just two imperfect individuals who forgive often. We have learned to laugh and to love. We strive to add flirtation and fun in the relationship because this little thing called love is hard work. However, it is so rewarding. So today, I give thirty-three random ways to add a little spice into any relationship.
How about you? What do you and your mate do to keep your marriage fresh? Enjoy!
Do something each day to make your spouse laugh.
When you think of something great about your partner, stop immediately and text him/her your thoughts.
Schedule sex on your calendar. Seriously!
Praise your mate while kiddos are listening.
Go to bed naked.
Invest in experiences to be enjoyed instead of buying more stuff.
Spend Saturdays together.
Find a tv series you both like; make some popcorn and enjoy the show.
Try a new restaurant together. Order a new dish and share.
Rub his/her back, feet, or whatever you and your partner desire.
Wear that outfit he/she likes. Ladies, wear your bright red lip-stick.
Eat dessert for dinner with no guilt.
Relax together with a good book and great coffee.
Be his/her biggest cheerleader. Dream together. Set common life goals.
Be his/her partner in crime. Bury the body and know he won’t tell. (Kidding but you get the idea)
Eat lots of chocolate.
Dance in the kitchen.
Get away for the weekend . . . just the two of you.
Give a meaningful gift whether it is a power tool or lingerie!
Never threaten with divorce. In fact, just drop it from your vocabulary.
Prepare a nice dinner and use your fine china and candle light.
Do his hobby together (Such as hunt or play golf) and then do your hobby together (shop, relax by the pool etc)
Meet in the middle when there is conflict. Make up in the middle of your bed.
Share the household chores.
Tell your spouse what you love about him/her. Start from the top of his head move to his toes.
Truly believe in your mate. Don’t give up on him/her. If you don’t believe in him, who will?
Forgive freely and love tightly.
Laugh often and cry softly.
Drop the excuses and lift the expectations.
Kiss his face. Kiss her neck. Kiss tenderly.
Honeymoon in Gatlinburg, Tn
Trying new things in Israel
Revisiting our Honeymoon Destination 30 years later
Celebrating Christmas at our HomeChurch Concord, NC
Mt Pleasant, NC 2019
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (NIV)